Enneagram Type 9: “The Peacemaker”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Nine in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types. Nine is the Peacemaker (also referred to in other sources as the Mediator, Naturalist, Accommodator or Abdicator). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.  In general, Nines are “motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid conflict.  Since they, especially, take on qualities of the other eight types, Nines have many variations in their personalities, from gentle and mild-mannered to independent and forceful.” They are described as “pleasant, peaceful, generous, patient, receptive, diplomatic, open-minded, empathic” at their best. They can also be “spaced-out, forgetful, stubborn, obsessive, apathetic, passive-aggressive, judgmental, unassertive” at their worst.

The most common types Myers-Briggs types for Type 9 are ISFP, and INFP.  Other possibilities are ISFJ and ENFP.  Slightly less common are ESFJ, ISTJ, ESFP, ISTP, INTJ, INTP, and INFJ.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Nine, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I often feel in union with nature and people.

2. Making choices can be very difficult.  I can see the advantages and disadvantages of every option.

3. It is sometimes hard for me to know what I want when I’m with other people.

4. Others see me as peaceful, but inside I often feel anxious.

5. Instead of tackling what I really need to do, I sometimes do little, unimportant things.

6. When there is unpleasantness going on around me, I just try to think about something else for a while.

7. I usually prefer walking away from a disagreement to confronting someone.

8. If I don’t have some routine and structure to my day, I get almost nothing done.

9. I tend to put things off until the last minute, but I almost always get them done.

10. I like to be calm and unhurried, but sometimes I overextend myself.

11. When people try to tell me what to do or try to control me, I get stubborn.

12. I like to be sure to have time in my day for relaxing.

13. Sometimes I feel shy and unsure of myself.

14. I enjoy just hanging out with my partner or friends.

15. Supportive and harmonious relationships are very important to me.

16. I am very sensitive about being judged and take criticism personally.

17. I like to listen and give people support.

18. I focus more on the positive than on the negative.

19. I have trouble getting rid of things.

20. I operate under the principle of inertia: If I’m going, it’s easy to keep going, but I sometimes have a hard time getting started.

Are you a Nine? Do you know a Nine? Let me know!

Published in: on December 9, 2012 at 8:07 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Enneagram Type Eight: “The Asserter”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Eight in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types. Eight is the Asserter (also referred to in other sources as the Leader, Solution Master, Maverick, Protector, Intimidator). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.  In general, Eights are “motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.” They are described as “direct, authoritative, loyal, energetic, earthy, protective, self-confident” at their best. They can also be “controlling, rebellious, insensitive, domineering, self-centered, skeptical, aggressive” at their worst.

The most common types Myers-Briggs types for Type 8 are ESTJ, ENTJ, and INTJ.  Other possibilities are ESTP and ENTP.  Slightly less common are ISTJ, ISTP, INTP, ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, and INFP.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Eight, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I can be aggressive and assertive when I need to be.

2. I can’t stand being used or manipulated.

3. I value being direct and honest; I put my cards on the table.

4. I am an individualist and a nonconformist.

5. I respect people who stand up for themselves.

6. I will go to any lengths to protect those I love.

7. I fight for what is right.

8. I support the underdog.

9. Making decisions is not difficult for me.

10. Self-reliance and independence are important.

11. I have overindulged in food or drugs.

12. Some people take offense at my bluntness.

13. When I enter a new group, I know immediately who the most powerful person is.

14. I work hard and I know how to get things done.

15. In a group I am sometimes an observer rather than a participant.

16. I like excitement and stimulation.

17. Sometimes I like to spar with people, especially when I feel safe.

18. I am vulnerable and loving when I really trust someone.

19. Overly nice or flattering people bother me.

20. Pretense is particularly distasteful to me.

Are you an Eight? Do you know an Eight? Let me know!

Enneagram Type 7: “The Adventurer”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Seven in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types. Seven is the Adventurer (also referred to in other sources as the Epicure, Optimist, Entertainer, Rationalizer). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.  In general, Sevens are “motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.” They are described as “fun-loving, spontaneous, imaginative, productive, enthusiastic, quick, confident, charming, curious” at their best. They can also be “narcissistic, impulsive, unfocused, rebellious, undisciplined, possessive, manic, self-destructive, restless” at their worst.

The most common types Myers-Briggs types for Type 7 are ESTP, ESFP, ISTP, ENTP, and ENFP.  Slightly less common are ESTJ, ISFP, and ENFJ.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Seven, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I enjoy life.  I am generally uninhibited and optimistic.

2. I don’t like being made to feel obligated or beholden.

3. I am busy and energetic.  I seldom get bored if left to do what I want.

4. I often take verbal or physical risks.

5. I usually pick upbeat friends who have similar goals.

6. I’m not an expert in any one thing, but I can do many things well.

7. My style is to go back and forth from one task to another.  I like to keep moving.

8. I seem to let go of grievances and recover from loss faster than most people I know.

9. I like myself and I’m good to myself.

10. I like people, and they usually like me.

11. I usually manage to get what I want.

12. I value quick wit.

13. I am idealistic.  I want to contribute something to the world.

14. I vacillate between feeling committed and wanting my freedom and independence.

15. I am often at ease in groups.

16. When people are unhappy, I usually try to get them to lighten up and see the bright side.

17. I love excitement and travel.

18. Sometimes I feel inferior and sometimes I feel superior to others.

19. I usually say whatever is on my mind.  Sometimes it gets me into trouble.

20. I can make great sacrifices to help people.

Are you a Seven? Do you know a Seven? Let me know!  I happen to be married to one. :-)

Published in: on October 11, 2012 at 9:51 am  Comments (2)  
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Enneagram Type 6: “The Questioner”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Six in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types.  Six is the Questioner (also referred to in other sources as the Loyalist, Skeptic, Guardian, Rebel). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.

In general, Sixes are “motivated by the need for security.  Phobic Sixes are outwardly fearful and seek approval.  Counterphobic Sixes confront their fear.  Both of these aspects can appear in the same person.” They are described as “loyal, likable, caring, warm, compassionate, witty, practical, helpful, responsible” at their best. They can also be “hyper-vigilant, controlling, unpredictable, judgmental, paranoid, defensive, rigid, self-defeating, testy” at their worst.

Those who are Type 6 could easily be any Myers-Briggs type since they are so varied.  The most common types, though, for Type 6 are ESFJ, ISFJ and ENTJ.  Other strong possibilities are ISFP, ENTP, INTJ, INTP, ENFJ, and INFJ.  Slightly less common are ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ESFP, ISTP, ENFP and INFP.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Six, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I am nervous around certain authority figures.

2. I am often plagued by doubt.

3. I like to have clear-cut guidelines and know where I stand.

4. I am always on the alert for danger.

5. I take things too seriously.

6. I constantly question myself about what might go wrong.

7. I often experience criticism as an attack.

8. I often obsess about what my partner is thinking.

9. I can be a very hard worker.

10. My friends think of me as loyal, supportive, and compassionate.

11. I’ve been told I have a good sense of humor.

12. I follow the rules closely (a phobic trait); or I often break rules (a counterphobic trait).

13. The more vulnerable I am in my intimate relationship, the more anxious and testy I become.

14. I tend to either procrastinate or plunge headlong, even into dangerous situations.

15. I am very aware of people trying to manipulate me with flattery.

16. I like predictability.

17. I have sabotaged my own success.

18. I can support people through thick and thin.

19. Being neat and orderly helps me to feel more in control of my life.

20. I dislike pretension in people.

Are you a Six?  Do you know a Six?  Let me know!

Published in: on October 4, 2012 at 10:48 am  Comments (2)  
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Enneagram Type 5: “The Observer”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Five in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types.  Five is the Observer (also referred to in other sources as the Investigator, Thinker, Sage). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.

In general, Fives are “motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self-sufficient, and to avoid looking foolish.” They are described as “analytical, persevering, sensitive, wise, objective, perceptive, self-contained” at their best. They can also be “intellectually arrogant, stingy, stubborn, distant, critical of others, unassertive, negative” at their worst.

The most common Myers-Briggs types for Type 5 are INTJ and INTP. Other strong possibilities are ISTJ and INFP.  Slightly less common are ESTJ, ISTP, and INFJ.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Five, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I learn from observing or reading as opposed to doing.

2. It’s hard to express my feelings in the moment.

3. I get lost in my interests and like to be alone with them for hours.

4. I usually experience my feelings more deeply when I’m by myself.

5. Sometimes I feel guilty that I’m not generous enough.

6. I try to conceal my sensitivity to criticism and judgment.

7. Brash, loud people offend me.

8. Conforming is distasteful to me.

9. I like to associate with others who have expertise in my field.

10. I like having a title (doctor, professor, administrator) to feel proud of.

11. I have been accused of being negative, cynical, and suspicious.

12. When I feel socially uncomfortable, I often wish I could disappear.

13. I am often reluctant to be assertive or aggressive.

14. I dislike most social events. I’d rather be alone or with a few people I know well.

15. I sometimes feel shy or awkward.

16. I get tired when I’m with people for too long.

17. I feel different from most people.

18. I feel invisible.  It surprises me when anyone notices anything about me.

19. I don’t look for material possessions to make me happy.

20. Acting calm is a defense.  It makes me feel stronger.

Are you a Five?  Do you know a Five?  Let me know!

Published in: on September 27, 2012 at 5:19 pm  Comments (1)  
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Enneagram Type 4: “The Romantic”

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Four in the Enneagram of 9 Personality Types.  Four is the Romantic (also referred to in other sources as the Individualist, Artist, Melodramatic, Mystic, Elitist). I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.

In general, Fours are “motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.” They are described as “warm, compassionate, introspective, expressive, creative, intuitive, supportive, refined” at their best. They can also be “depressed, self-conscious, guilt-ridden, moralistic, withdrawn, stubborn, moody, self-absorbed” at their worst.

The most common Myers-Briggs types for Type 4 are INFJ and INFP. Other strong possibilities are ENFP and ISFP.  Slightly less common are ISFJ, ESFP and ENFJ.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so. Or if you’re not a Four, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. Being understood is very important to me.

2. My friends say they enjoy my warmth and my different way of looking at life.

3. I can become nonfunctional for hours, days, or weeks when I’m depressed.

4. I am very sensitive to critical remarks and feel hurt at the tiniest slight.

5. It really affects me emotionally when I read upsetting stories in the newspaper.

6. My ideals are very important to me.

7. I cry easily.  Beauty, love, sorrow, and pain really touch me.

8. My melancholy moods are real and important.  I don’t necessarily want to get out of them.

9. I often long for what others have.

10. I try to support my friends, especially when they are in crisis.

11. I live in the past and in the future more than in present-day reality.

12. I place great importance on my intuition.

13. I try to control people at times.

14. I hate insincerity and lack of integrity in others.

15. I have spent years longing for the great love of my life to come along.

16. I focus on what is wrong with me rather than on what is right.

17. I like to be seen as one of a kind.

18. I am always searching for my true self.

19. Sometimes I feel very uncomfortable and different, like an isolated outsider, even when I’m with my friends.

20. When people tell me what to do, I often become rebellious and do, or wish I could do, the opposite.

Are you a Four?  Do you know a Four?  Let me know!

Published in: on September 22, 2012 at 11:22 am  Comments (1)  
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Enneagram Type 3: “The Achiever”

More Enneagram!!  Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Three – Achiever (also referred to in other sources as Performer, Motivator, Achiever, Producer, Status Seeker).  I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele.

In general, Threes are “motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.”  They are described as “optimistic, confident, industrious, efficient, self-propelled, energetic, practical” at their best.  They can also be “deceptive, narcissistic, pretentious, vain, superficial, vindictive, overly competitive” at their worst.  Many are in between, I suppose. :-)

The most common Myers-Briggs types for Type 3 are ENTJ and ENFJ.  Other strong possibilities are ESTJ, ESFJ and INTJ.  Rare but possible are ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTP, ESFP, ISTP, ENTP and ENFP.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so.  Or if you’re not a Three, you may recognize someone you know in here!

1. I am almost always busy.

2. I like to make to-do lists, progress charts, and schedules for myself.

3. I don’t mind being asked to work overtime.

4. I have an optimistic attitude.

5. I go full force until I get the job done.

6. I believe in doing things as expediently as possible.

7. It is important for people to better themselves and live up to their potential.

8. I’m not interested in talking a lot about my personal life.

9. I try not to let illness stop me from doing anything.

10. I hate to see jobs undone.

11. I tend to put work before other things.

12. I can’t understand people who are bored.  I never run out of things to do.

13. It is sometimes difficult for me to get in touch with my feelings.

14. I work very hard to take care of and provide for my family.

15. I like identifying with competent groups or important people.

16. I try to present myself well and make a good first impression.

17. Financial security is extremely important to me.

18. I generally feel pretty good about myself.

19. People often look to me to run the show.

20. I like to stand out in some way.

Did you read this and think, “That’s me!”?  If so, I want to hear about it. :-)

PS – I’m editing the checklist articles for Types 1 and 2 so that they have the “at their best” and “at their worst” adjectives as well, plus most common Myers-Briggs types.  You can read about the Perfectionist HERE and the Helper HERE.

Published in: on September 20, 2012 at 5:07 pm  Comments (3)  

Enneagram Type 2: “The Helper”

The other day I posted on Type 1 in the Enneagram personality typing system, and you can read that HERE.  Today is all about Type 2!

In general, Twos are described as “loving, caring, adaptable, insightful, generous, enthusiastic, tuned in to how people feel” at their best.  At their worst, they can be “martyrlike, indirect, manipulative, possessive, hysterical, overly accommodating, overly demonstrative (the more extroverted Twos.”

The most common Myers-Briggs types for a One are ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, ENFJ, & ENFP.  Another fairly likely possibility is INFP.  Rare but possible are ISFP and INFJ.

Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type Two – Helper (also referred to as Giver, Nurturer, Adviser).  I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele (great introductory book to the Enneagram!).

Do these describe you or someone you know?  Think of them especially as they relate to you before around age 25.

1. I want people to feel comfortable coming to me for guidance and advice.

2. Relationships are more important to me than almost anything.

3. Sometimes I feel overburdened by people’s dependence on me.

4. I have trouble asking for what I need.

5. I crave, yet sometimes fear, intimacy.

6. I am more comfortable giving than receiving.

7. I am very sensitive to criticism.

8. I work hard to overcome all obstacles in a relationship.

9. I try to be as sensitive and tactful as possible.

10. When I am alone I know what I want, but when I am with others I am not sure.

11. It is very important that others feel comfortable and welcome in my home.

12. I don’t want my dependence to show.

13. Watching violence on television and seeing people suffer is unbearable.

14. Sometimes I feel a deep sense of loneliness.

15. If I don’t get the closeness I need, I feel sad, hurt, and unimportant.

16. Sometimes I get physically ill and emotionally drained from taking care of everyone else

17. I often figure out what others would like in a person, then act that way.

18. I enjoy giving compliments and telling people that they are special to me.

19. I am attracted to being with important or powerful people.

20. People have said I exaggerate too much and am overly emotional.

There ya go!  Could you possibly be a Type 2?

Published in: on September 18, 2012 at 7:35 pm  Leave a Comment  
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On Being Tired

I’m super tired.  I know that several of you that sometimes read here are moms of a plethora of offspring, and you might be saying to yourselves, “Allie, tired? Who does she think she is to be tired when she’s only got a husband to take care of!”  It’s true.  I probably don’t even know he half of it.  But…teaching/singing pretty much straight from 8:30am-9:15pm takes it toll, and I’m very ready for bed (after some lesson planning and gathering the laundry piles for tomorrow morning).  Here’s to hoping that God’s training me to be able to handle it when I do have good reason to be tired. :-)

Anyway, it was getting to the point today (and several days lately) where I’ve thought, “Do I even have any more to give?  No, pretty sure I don’t.”  And each time I think that, I try remind myself of this challenging but encouraging post by a friend (click here to read).  She says that when you need, give.  It’s simple.  But oh-so hard.

A little while back I was reading a couple of the accounts in the gospels where Jesus has His disciples feed several thousand people at a time.  His disciples show him the couple of loaves and few fish available to them, hoping to demonstrate the impracticality/impossibility of accomplishing a successful mealtime for that many people.  But Jesus basically says, “Just start handing it out.  I’ll deal with the outcome.”

These passages are an encouragement to me in that what God tells me to do is give, give, give until I have no more to give.  And then He tells me, “Give more.   Yes, I can see that you have very little energy, and there are many activities/tasks/people who need to be filled with what little you have.  But you just start handing it out, and I will work miracles with it.”  And lo, it multiplies. :-) But that’s the thing – if I don’t start handing it out, if I think, “There is no more.  I’m stopping here and reserving any little bit I might have left,” then there’s no hope of multiplication.

So we must give, even when we need.  Especially when we need.  And God will work miracles.

Published in: on September 12, 2012 at 10:10 pm  Leave a Comment  

Enneagram Type 1: The Perfectionist

Here I am again obsessing about the Enneagram personality typing system!  Below is a ‘checklist’ of sorts to determine whether or not you could possibly be a Type One – Perfectionist (also referred to as Reformer, Judge, Crusader).  I am again quoting from The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele (this is a great introductory book to the Enneagram, and I highly recommend it!).

In general, Ones are described as “ethical, reliable, productive, wise, idealistic, fair, honest, orderly, self-disciplined” at their best.  At their worst, they can be “judgmental, inflexible, dogmatic, obsessive-compulsive, critical of others, overly serious, controlling, anxious, jealous.”  The most common Myers-Briggs types for a One are ESTJ, ISTJ, ISFJ, & INTJ.  Other fairly likely possibilities are ESFJ, ENTJ, ENFJ, and INFJ.  Rare but possible are ISTP, INTP and INFP.

Consider these statements in regard to your own personality, especially as you would have related to them before age 25 or so.  Or if you’re not a One, you may very well recognize someone you know in here!

1. I like to be organized and orderly.

2. It is difficult for me to be spontaneous.

3. I often feel guilty about not getting enough accomplished.

4. I don’t like it when people break the rules.

5. Incorrect grammar and spelling bother me a lot.

6. I am idealistic.  I want to make the world a better place.

7. I am almost always on time.

8. I hold on to resentment for a long time.

9. I think of myself as being practical, reasonable, and realistic.

10. When jealous, I become fearful and competitive.

11. Either I don’t have enough time to relax or I think I shouldn’t relax.

12. I tend to see things in terms of right or wrong, good or bad.

13. I analyze major purchases very thoroughly before I make them.

14. I dread being criticized or judged by others.

15. I often compare myself with others.

16. Truth and justice are very important to me.

17. I often feel that time is running out and there is too much left to do.

18. I almost always do what I say I will do.

19. I worry almost constantly.

20. I love making every detail perfect.
So…could you  be a One?

Published in: on September 11, 2012 at 11:09 am  Comments (2)  
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